Patient Perspective: Larry's Story

Larry's Story - Learning to manage my incontinence

I’m 68 years old and I have incontinence. I’ve suffered a lot of setbacks over the years. I lost a finger in the army. I suffer from high blood pressure. And I have an old football injury that flares up regularly. But I have never suffered as much shame and humiliation as I have since I started experiencing incontinence.

It started innocently enough - a leak here and there. My doctor said it was due to prostate problems and gave me some medication to help. It did for a while, but then the leaks flared up again and I was forced to admit that this problem was not going away.

My first trip to the grocery store to purchase incontinence pads was a doozy. Standing there, looking at the wall of options was so intimidating. What do I choose? What size? How do I know it will fit? What if it doesn’t – can I return the bag? I had so many questions and no one to ask – after all, it’s not like men just talk about peeing their pants with each other all the time. Not to mention I kept looking over my shoulder to make sure that no one I knew saw me standing there. It would be so embarrassing to be “caught” in this situation.

When I finally got home, I started trying out the various absorbent products that I had purchased. I had bought 3 different types and gave each one a fair shot for a full day before making the call. Unfortunately none of them worked so I was back to the drawing board.

Fortunately, my wife found a company online that sold different products so I gave it a shot. I don’t know why I didn’t start with this option in the first place. They offered a free consultation so I gave them a call. The rep was so helpful and it was great having a guide to walk me through the different options, and also learn more about me, my condition and my lifestyle to help find something that would work best for me.

These days, I only use online services to order absorbent products. And, I’ve found great products that help me keep my leaks controlled, and my condition under wraps so no one is the wiser.

I still don’t love having incontinence, but it’s become such a normal part of life now that it doesn’t have the same hold on me as it once did. I didn’t envision this happening to me, but am happy to know that there are resources out there to help and products available that can make it more manageable. I feel free to live my life without fear of leaks and that is something to be really proud of.

Larry B., Seattle, WA

Ask The Expert: What's The Best Adult Absorbent Product On The Market?

What's The Best Adult Absorbent Product On The Market?

Each month, we ask our expert panel to answer one of our reader's questions. To learn more about the NAFC Expert Panel, and how to submit your own question, see below.

QuestionWhen I go to the grocery store, I'm faced with a wall of different incontinence products. How do I choose what's right for me? What’s the best adult absorbent product on the market?

Answer:  This is a really tough question, and to be honest, there’s no one answer. Finding an absorbent product that’s right for you takes patients and depends on your specific circumstances. 

We always recommend paying attention to what we call the “3 F’s”, Form, Fit, and Function. First and foremost, it’s important to look for a good fit (you don’t want anything too big or too small, as both of those factors can cause leaks).

Next, you’ll want to think about function and how you need the product to work for – do you leak urine during the day or at night? When you do leak, is it just a little bit, or a lot? There are different products for all of these specific problems so you’ll want to consider what you struggle with the most and pay attention to the packaging and description of the products your choosing. 

Finally, think about form, which relates directly to your lifestyle. Are you very active? Absorbent briefs or pads may work best. Are you confined to a bed or chair? You may want to look for something easier to remove. All of these factors play an important part in choosing an absorbent product that works for you.

As for specific brands of incontinence products, there are a lot out there, even beyond what you may find in a big box store.  Do your homework and look online too. Online shopping for absorbents has it’s own benefits, like greater selection, and being able to shop privately in your own home.  Many online retailers also have consultants on hand to help you weed through the massive selection of products based on your specific needs.

Good luck, and remember to keep trying. It may take a several tries to find “the one” but once you do, the peace of mind to know that you’re protected, and comfortable, will be worth the effort.

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3 Reasons You Should Use A Mail Order Service When Ordering Incontinence Supplies

3 Reasons You Should Use A Mail Order Service When Ordering Incontinence Supplies

3 Reasons You Should Use A Mail Order Service When Ordering Incontinence Supplies

If you live with bladder leakage or care for someone who does, then you’ve been there. Walking into a grocery store or supermarket, standing in the incontinence aisle, completely overwhelmed by the number of options to choose from. “Which brand is the best? What style should I try? How do I know this product will work?”, you may be wondering.  And then, when you finally make your choice, you stand in the check out lane, wondering who is watching, and what the clerk is thinking as you complete your purchase. 

It can be emotionally overwhelming. That’s why NAFC highly advocates for using a mail order service for incontinence supplies. Read below for our top 3 reasons.

Top 3 Reasons To Use A Mail Order Service When Ordering Incontinence Supplies

More options. 

Let’s face it – even though it may seem like you’re looking at a wall of incontinence supplies when you shop, your local drugstore only has so much space. When it comes to number of options, a mail order supply company can’t be beat. They have warehouses full of different brands – many of which you may not have heard of before (but may be just what you need!). Many mail supply companies also offer sampler kits, which allow you to try out several types of products or brands without having to invest in full packages of something you aren’t sure will work for you yet. Simply put, you won’t get a wider array of product options anywhere else.

It’s Discreet.

No perusing the products in the middle of the store. No one to see you checking out at the register. Mail order is discreet. Products arrive directly to your door, usually in non-descript packaging, ensuring that your privacy is kept in tact.

You can get help from someone who knows what they’re talking about.

This may be one of the biggest benefits to using a mail order service. A trained professional is usually available to walk through your symptoms, how you’ll use the product, and your preferences, to help you choose a product that is just right for you. They know the features of the products, have heard first hand how they work for their customers, and can be invaluable when trying to decide which product will work best for your needs. You won’t get that level of service at your local grocery store.

So how do you find a mail order service? Here are a few that we highly recommend.  Check them out and make your first order today.

Home Delivery Incontinence Supply (HDIS)

Live Anew

Because Market

LilyBird