Bill, Kegels For Husbands 

“Wow! What was that?” I excitedly asked my wife. 

“A Kegel”, my wife whispered. 

“A Kegel? What’s a Kegel?” I implored. 

“It’s a pelvic muscle floor contraction.  So, you could feel it?” my wife asked. 

“Feel it! It felt great! Can you do it again?” I inquired with anticipation. 

“Sure. Anytime I want --- or you want me to. What does it feel like?” my wife wanted to know. 

“Like an invisible hand in your vagina gently squeezing my penis.” 

My wife knowingly pulled me close to let me know we needed to get back to simply being intimate.  It had been a long time since either of us seemed so open and so comfortable giving each other pleasure. 

That is how I was first introduced to Kegel exercises. Not surprisingly, I wanted to know about Kegel exercises for men. Could I also do pelvic muscle contractions for delivering enhanced sexual pleasure?  Were there other benefits from strengthening the muscles associated with these contractions? 

An Internet search of “pelvic floor muscle exercises” and “Kegel exercises”, including a visit to the website of the National Association for Continence (NAFC) provided me with answers to my questions: “yes” and “yes”!  I even found an instructional audio tape and manual from NAFC, just for men. 

In terms of enhanced sexual performance, after six or so weeks of daily Kegel exercises, I am now better able to control the timing of my orgasms, my erections are stronger and longer lasting, and I am able to stimulate my wife more pleasurably by increasing the movement of my penis during sexual relations. Similarly, she embraces me with her contractions and has complete control over when she stimulates me. 

So, at the age of sixty, I now work out regularly to strengthen a set of muscles I never really thought about before or even knew I had. Now that I have thought about them, I realize how important the pelvic floor muscles are to my sexual pleasure and my bladder health.  Best of all, it does not take a gym membership to make these muscles stronger!  Again, I learned all the exercises I needed to do with the help and instruction from NAFC.  

Now when my wife and I get together for intimate moments and one of us says “Kegel” it is not a question. It is an exclamation, and we both smile.